#021 – The Family Qualifications of a Pastor


In this week’s episode, we’re going to be diving into Titus 1:5-7a to examine the qualifications of a pastor. These verses specifically deal with with the undeniable truth that a pastor must be a family man. Not just that he says that he loves his family, but there are obvious evidences that he not only loves them, but shepherds them.  I’ve also got a Top 5 in under 5 segment featuring both Pastor James Johnson and Dr. Marc Monte.  Stay tuned for that at the end of the episode.

Family Qualifications

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For this cause left I thee in Crete, that thou shouldest set in order the things that are wanting, and ordain elders in every city, as I had appointed thee:

If any be blameless, the husband of one wife, having faithful children not accused of riot or unruly.

For a bishop must be blameless, as the steward of God; 

Titus 1:5-7a

1.  He Must Be Blameless. Specifically, as an Example of a Family Man.

“The spiritual leader in the church is not primarily a producer, as industry calls them, somebody who works hard.  He is not primarily a manager, that is somebody who gets people to work.  He is a leader, that is someone who lives a life that others want to copy.” – John MacArthur

Blameless – literally, unaccused, irreproachable, above reproach.  In a condition of first class.

The pastor’s example in leadership at home should be of high consideration to a church.

He ought to be the example for the husbands and dad’s in the church to follow.

2.  He Must Be Blameless as a Husband.

Based upon the scriptures, he must be:

– The husband of one wife.  Can he be unmarried?  Can he practice polygamy? Can he be divorce or remarried?

– A faithful, committed, pure husband.

– Above all, a lover of his wife as Christ loves the church; sacrificing, providing, considering, spiritually leading.

– He should nourish and cherish his wife as a valuable vessel.

His marriage ought to be a visible example of Christ and the church.

3.  He Must Be Blameless as a Dad.

If a church desires a pastor that can lead someone to Christ, disciple them, and equip them to serve Christ; see if these are the things that he is doing in his own family.

The power of a godly life is a powerful tool in the hand of God to lead others to God.  This is no less true when you examine the influence that the pastor has had on his children.

Children – Sons and daughters, offspring, with no reference or regard to age, young or old.

Faithful – ones who believe, are saved, converted

Converted children should be the priority of any father.

“We desire to give our children more than our parents gave us, and then to see that they’re sufficiently educated so they can give their children even more.  There’s little desire for, or cognizance of spiritual legacy.  How do we not change our priorities? How do our hearts not burn with a desire to bring God’s Word before our families as often as we might in an effort to see the souls of our children converted? How do we keep the tears from flowing as we consider even the possibility that one of these precious ones may not spend eternity with us in the presence of Him Who’s our All in all? And how do we not tremble at the prospect of our neglect being a contributing factor in such a tragedy?” – Voddie Baucham from Family Shepherds

Check out the book Family Shepherds

Family Shepherds (By the author of Family Driven Faith): Calling and Equipping Men to Lead Their Homes

Not Accused of Riot – debauchery, prodigality

Unruly – insubordinate, ungoverned


The pastor is held accountable and responsible for the spiritual well-being of his family.  His eligibility for being qualified to be a pastor and undershepherd in the local church hinges upon this issue.  He can’t pastor the church if he isn’t pastoring his family.


Top 5 in Under 5 Segment

This week’s top 5 in under 5 segment breaks the rules a little bit.  It does not meet the prerequisite of being under 5 minutes.  But, I will cut some slack in this instance only due to the fact that it comes from 2 men.  James Johnson, the pastor of Temple Baptist Church in Muncie, Indiana recorded this segment along with Dr. Marc Monte, the pastor of Faith Baptist Church in Avon, Indiana.  In it, Pastor Monte shares 5 book recommendations with us.  Enjoy!

James Johnson

James Johnson, Pastor, Temple Baptist Church, Muncie, IN

Twitter: @TempleMuncie


Dr. Marc Monte, Pastor, Faith Baptist Church, Avon, IN

Twitter: @DrMarcMonte

Pastor Monte’s Top 5 Book Recommendations

The Crusader

Unbroken: A World War II Story of Survival, Resilience, and Redemption

Lone Survivor: The Eyewitness Account of Operation Redwing and the Lost Heroes of SEAL Team 10

Strange Fire: The Danger of Offending the Holy Spirit with Counterfeit Worship

Of Time and the River: A Legend of Man’s Hunger in His Youth (Scribner Classics)

The Outreach Conference at Faith Baptist Church in Avon, IN

This conference is going to be awesome.  You can register at http://www.faithbaptistavon.com/outreach.html.

Here is a document giving all of the information about the main sessions and workshops.


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  1. Good morning Brian. Enjoyed the podcast as always. Just a thought to share. It’s absolutely true that we need to lead our families and our children, and certainly many heartbreaking stories are told about families in the past that have been ignored for the Ministry. But if pastors of old have forsaken their families on the altar of ministry, I find that many in my generation are forsaking the ministry on the altar of families. Simply put, I’m concerned about the laziness that I see in some of my generation of pastors and how that is justified by the reason of ‘family time’.

    • Thanks for commenting Ryan.

      I’m not sure that I’ve seen the issue of our generation forsaking ministry on the altar of families. It probably has more to do with leisure and living the good life. Family is just along for the ride.

      I still think that our generation could be forsaking discipling our own children and equipping the families in our church to do the same thing. We just delegate the spiritual growth of our kids to the church when the church was never intended to bear the brunt of that responsibility, but to support. If the pastor isn’t ministering to his own family, the church families are not likely to do it either.

      But, to your point, laziness has no place in ministry. Praying for your family!

  2. About taking care of your family let me say this. My last 3 pastors, 2 of whom I served on staff for divorced their wives ( one of them remarried his wife PTL). One is out of church, one is in the kind of church he preached against for years and the last pragmatically changed his stance and continued to pastor. It is of the utmost importance to tend to your family.

    • David,
      Thanks for sharing this. It is both amazing and heartbreaking. By God’s grace, may we live and minister in such a way that it is abundantly clear that our family is our highest priority after our walk with God!

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